The 5 Love Languages
We all grow up learning to speak a specific language. If you grew up in a multicultural setting, you may be able to speak several languages. However, the language you learned to speak first, usually the language of your parents, will be your primary or native language. It has sometimes been called the “heart language.” You may speak a second language or even a third fluently, but you will always be partial to your native tongue.
The same is true when we talk about the languages of love. Out of the five fundamental languages, each of us has a primary love language. It is the one that speaks most deeply to us emotionally. Once introduced to the five love languages—words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, quality time, and physical touch—some people immediately recognize their own primary love language. Others take longer to discern their primary love language.
If you’re unsure what your primary love language is, here are some ways to find out:
•Observe Your Own Behavior — How you express love could be the way in which you like to receive love.
•Observe What You Request of Others — Our requests tend to indicate our emotional needs.
•Listen to Your Complaints — Our complaints often reveal our deep emotional hurts—areas in which we have needs.
•Ask the Right Questions — What do you like or appreciate most about your existing relationships?
•Take the Official 5 Love Languages® Quiz — https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/
Once you discover your own primary love language, see if you can figure out the primary love language of those you’re in relationship with. There is certainly satisfaction in receiving love, but there’s also much satisfaction in giving love -maybe even more.
Brene Brown – Empathy
The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse – The Gottman Institute
Bonding – Sue Johnson and Edward Tronick
Brene Brown – Vulnerability as Strength
The Emotional Bank Account – The Gottman Institute
Brene Brown – Blame