Should we go to counseling?
What is our style of therapy?
Our style of counseling is active and engaging. We provide structure and focus so the work is productive and relevant. We maintain a balance between following and supportively guiding you to address the areas of your relationship that have been unclear or difficult to express.
How long does couples therapy take?
Clients often ask how long therapy will last. About half of the couples we see complete the work in between 15 and 20 sessions. It can vary widely, depending on complicating factors such as a history of trauma, major events in your family of origin, an affair or other situations that have eroded trust and openness in your relationship. We often suggest reading or other tasks between sessions that help carry the effect of therapy forward and can decrease its duration.
Will we tell you what to do?
We are highly skilled therapist and counselors with specific training and expertise. We are also aware that you are the expert on you. We explore feelings, deeper areas or blind spots, and create new perspectives. We will never tell you what to do but will instead create options and support you in choosing the best one for you.
What is an MFT?
Marriage and Family Therapists (MFT) have a specialization in systemic or relational therapy, and believe that throughout life we exist in a number of relationships that directly and indirectly impact our well-being. Examining the behaviors of all family members and the way these behaviors affect everyone, not only individual family members, but also relationships between family members and the family unit as a whole. As such, treatment is usually divided between time spent on individual therapy and time spent on couple therapy, family therapy, or both, if necessary. Our relationships with family, friends, co-workers and neighbors influence and create our individual experience. The theory behind MFT is that regardless of whether a problem appears to be within an individual or within a family, getting other family members involved in the therapeutic process will result in more effective solutions. MFT is goal-oriented and works toward an established end result.
What is EFT?
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) is an evidence-based treatment approach with the goal of emotional reconnection between partners. Developed by Dr. Susan Johnson, EFT is based on John Bowlby’s revolutionary attachment research. Adult attachment relationships are believed to have the same survival function as the mother-child bond, since ideally these attachments can provide the same love, comfort, support, and protection throughout the lifespan. However due to our relationship histories and the negative interaction cycles we get into with our partners, many of us have difficulties with trust and expressing vulnerable emotion to those who mean the most to us. Using EFT, couples began to recognize and eventually express their primary emotions and needs that are often hidden or disguised by the harsh and angry words used in repetitive self-defeating patterns of conflict.
What is CBT?
Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is a type of psychotherapeutic treatment that helps people learn how to identify and change destructive or disturbing thought patterns that have a negative influence on behavior and emotions. CBT focuses on changing the automatic negative thoughts that can contribute to and worsen emotional difficulties like, anxiety, anger issues, depression, stress and many others. offer